Category Archives: Adulthood

Articles that are particularly relevant or helpful to people interested in growing their emotional maturity.

But What About Socialisation?

Posted on 22 June, 2016 by aliceklassen

Any homeschooling family will tell you that one of the most frequently heard objections to their educational choice is “socialisation”. Though generally well-meaning, but often ill-informed, people will always bring this one up. They are concerned that your child, being … Continue reading →

Posted in Adulthood, Homeschooling, Parenthood | Tagged bullying, Children, Education, friendships, HomeSchool, homeschooling, mental health, psychology, relationships, resilience, self-esteem, self-love, self-respect, sociolising, sociology | Leave a comment

How Schools Encourage Co-dependency

Posted on 18 May, 2016 by fourbirdseducation

Co-dependence is a technical word for what people used to refer to as “battered wife/husband syndrome” where one person in the relationship completely sacrifices their freedom and well-being to take care of the other person who takes them for granted. Such people see themselves as responsible for managing the feelings of the other person. They falsely believe they are in control of the other person’s feelings and deny the other person’s responsibility for their own problems.

There is a twelve point checklist used as a guide to determine if a person is co-dependent. Let us go through this list of items one by one and see how the public school system encourages this pathological approach to relationships. Continue reading →

Posted in Adulthood, Parenthood, Teacherhood, Water Bird | Tagged anxiety, child abuse, Children, co-dependence, dysfunction, Education, harming children, identity cults, maturity, mental health, personal growth, psychology, relationships, schooling, self-apathy, self-esteem, self-value, statism, Teacher | Leave a comment

Who Makes You Feel?

Posted on 14 January, 2016 by fourbirdseducation

There are two completely different viewpoints people have about emotions: whether they are under our direct control or whether other people make us feel certain emotions. The philosophical consequences of believing one way or the other have a profound impact on how we organise and structure our relationships with friends and family. Continue reading →

Posted in Adulthood, Water Bird | Tagged control, Emotion, emotional regulation, emotions, feeling, feelings, manipulation, maturity, mental health, philosophy, psychology, regulation, relationships, self control, self-awareness | Leave a comment

Understanding Psychological Projection

Posted on 19 July, 2014 by fourbirdseducation

Psychological projection is close to the top of my list of things I consider to be essential knowledge for everyone to know and understand. While you will typically find no shortage of psychologists ready to point out to you that … Continue reading →

Posted in Adulthood, Parenthood, Teacherhood, Water Bird | Tagged Communication, critique, empathy, essential knowledge, innovation, mental illness, miscommunication, misunderstanding, projection, Psychological projection, psychology, relationships, sympathy, understanding | Leave a comment

Emotional Strength

Posted on 15 October, 2013 by fourbirdseducation

Could you ever imagine having a conversation with someone about their house, specifically that their house was on fire and would soon be burned completely to the ground? Yet, after informing this person that their house was on fire, they … Continue reading →

Posted in Adulthood, Parenthood, Water Bird | Tagged acceptance, Books, Conversation, Emotion, feelings, intrapersonal, intrapsychic, mental health, mindfulness, personal growth, psychology, self-awareness, self-knowledge, soul, soulfulness, stoicism, Thought, wisdom | Leave a comment

Erica Goldson’s Valedictorian Speech

Posted on 17 August, 2013 by fourbirdseducation

Erica Goldson astonished her teachers and peers with her graduation speech about the public education system and the warped values pushed onto children by the state. Her courage, wisdom and integrity is inspiring. If the audio in the video is … Continue reading →

Posted in Adulthood | Tagged Education, Erica Goldson, Graduation, obedience training, schooling, speech, statism, test taking, thinking, Valedictorian | Leave a comment

Introducing Narcissism

Posted on 12 August, 2013 by fourbirdseducation

Narcissism is term you have probably heard used often in psychological contexts, but I want to stress here that when I talk about narcissism on this website I am actually using a lot of my own ideas. My definition of … Continue reading →

Posted in Adulthood, Parenthood, Teacherhood, Water Bird | Tagged Borderline Personality Disorder, Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Disorders, DSM, Health, Mental disorder, mental health, narcissism, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, psychology, Rosenhan experiment, self-esteem | 1 Comment

Writing a Journal

Posted on 6 August, 2013 by fourbirdseducation

Attaining mental health is not a simple task. Just as we live in a world full of germs and parasites that can infest and harm our bodies, we also live in a psychological world of relationships with other people which … Continue reading →

Posted in Adulthood, Water Bird | Tagged Communication, Diary, Emotion, independence, journal, mental health, psychology, self-acceptance, self-awareness, self-care, self-esteem, self-help, self-love, Thought | 2 Comments

Book: Will I Ever Be Good Enough?

Posted on 18 July, 2013 by fourbirdseducation

Since I read a lot of books about psychology, relationships, mental health and related topics, I will post reviews of books that I have read. This time I am writing about a book that helped me a great deal to … Continue reading →

Posted in Adulthood, Books, Parenthood, Water Bird | Tagged book, Karyl McBride, mental health, narcissism, Narcissistic, narcissistic daughters, narcissistic families, narcissistic mothers, Narcissistic parents, narcissistic personality disorder, Personality, self-esteem, self-help | 1 Comment

Introducing Self-Esteem

Posted on 9 July, 2013 by fourbirdseducation

Self-esteem is a topic we are going to be talking about a great deal at Four Birds Education because it is the core of good mental health and consequently the core of the Water Bird theme. So it is entirely … Continue reading →

Posted in Adulthood, Parenthood, Teacherhood, Water Bird | Tagged apathy, false-love, guilt, healing, identity cults, innner peace, loathing, love, maturity, mental health, narcissism, negativity, personal growth, pride, psychology, self-apathy, self-esteem, self-healing, self-loathing, self-love, self-nurturing, self-protecting, self-value, shame, spiritual well-being, well-being | 1 Comment