Could you ever imagine having a conversation with someone about their house, specifically that their house was on fire and would soon be burned completely to the ground? Yet, after informing this person that their house was on fire, they responded with something along the lines of, “sorry, the idea of my house being on fire is just too distressing for me to deal with right now and I would appreciate it if you would stop upsetting me by telling me about it.” How would you react to such a situation? Presumably many people would laugh at such a scenario, however, what if I were to tell you that such a scenario is actually surprisingly common? How many people do you know who actively avoid having a discussion about important issues that directly affect them? Consider people who seek romantic partners that are no good for them, they are essentially walking into a house on fire yet when a friend brings this too their attention they respond not with gratitude but as though they were being personally attacked by this concern for their well-being. How many teenagers put off homework and assignments until the last minute? How many adults put off important chores and tasks until something breaks or they are forced to start paying the consequences? How few of these people heed any advice offered to them? All of this ties into an idea that I conceptualise as emotional strength. I call it this, because it is like physical strength, if you go to a gym you can get much stronger than you naturally are simply by exercising your ability to handle strong emotions. Continue reading
Posted in Adulthood, Parenthood, Water Bird
Tagged acceptance, Books, Conversation, Emotion, feelings, intrapersonal, intrapsychic, mental health, mindfulness, personal growth, psychology, self-awareness, self-knowledge, soul, soulfulness, stoicism, Thought, wisdom
Sorry for the lack of updates over the last month. I have had to deal with two immediate deaths in my family as well as the news that the person who was the single greatest inspiration for me to create Four Birds Education has cancer and may never get a chance to see this endeavor get off the ground. I had debated whether or not I should explain my absence or not but I think it is important to let people know that I am serious about this endeavour and have committed to pushing it forward even though the person who most inspired me is no longer in my life. I have spent a lot of time over the last month thinking hard about what is important in life and what I would like to achieve with Four Birds Education. Having started this project feeling uncertain where I wanted to go and how far, I’ve decided I would like to push this project firmly and not be apologetic about it: we, as a society, have a crisis in how we treat children, treat each other and most importantly in how we treat ourselves. Self-loathing has not merely become accepted in our society, but open displays of self-deprecation have become trendy. My vision for Four Birds is to help teach people to appreciate what matters most in life is not money nor fame, but our relationships in ours lives with our children, our friends, our families and ourselves.
My goals this month are to finish off all of the essays on this web page, sort out my ABN and post some more content. Next month will the exciting phase of trying to promote and sell this business. So stick around, big things will be happening around here.
Erica Goldson astonished her teachers and peers with her graduation speech about the public education system and the warped values pushed onto children by the state. Her courage, wisdom and integrity is inspiring. If the audio in the video is too difficult to follow the complete transcript of her speech can be found on her blog here.
17 August, 2013
Tagged Education, Erica Goldson, Graduation, obedience training, schooling, speech, statism, test taking, thinking, Valedictorian
When I tell people that I am working on a business that promotes and supports homeschooling one of the first questions people ask me is how many children are homeschooled in Australia. Typically I can immediately bring up statistics for the USA where estimates vary from 2 to 3.5 million children are currently being homeschooled. This represents roughly 5-10% of school aged children and is a fantastic achievement for American parents. But getting figures for Australian homeschooling is an entirely different matter. In this article I will be discussing briefly about some aspects of homeschooling in Australia: number, media perception, reasons for and common prejudices towards homeschooling families.
A Word About Numbers
This is an extremely difficult question to answer. One article I read cited the 2001 Census, recording 30,000 children were homeschooled at that time, but I have not been able to find this information on the Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) website. Another study estimated 15,000 and this figure is on Wikipedia, however, this study is almost 15 years old now and it was a projection based on a limited sample size. ABC news provided the figure of 50,000 in an article dated January, 2012 while a homeschooling website estimated the figure to be as high as 80,000. So that is the extent of what I know and it is very sketchy at best. If the next census had a question specifically asking if parents homeschooled I do not think this would help as many families either homeschool illegally or they object to the government knowing every detail of their family life. The short answer is that no one knows for certain, probably somewhere between 30 and 100 thousand but growing rapidly. The number of children in government regulated schools was 3,589,986 for 2012, so that puts the estimated percentage homeschooled between 0.8% and 2.7%, so not such a far cry from the current US numbers after all. Continue reading
Posted in Air Bird, Education News, Homeschooling, News, Parenthood
Tagged ABC news, Australia, bias, Education, Herald Sun, HomeSchool, homeschooling, mainstream media, media bias, news, report, State school, statistics
Narcissism is term you have probably heard used often in psychological contexts, but I want to stress here that when I talk about narcissism on this website I am actually using a lot of my own ideas. My definition of narcissism stretches across multiple diagnoses in the current DSM including: Narcissist Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, Oppositional Defiant Disorder and others. The reason why I am doing this is because the modern psychological profession has a serious problem: defining mental illness beyond describing its symptoms. In this article I am going to define narcissism and mental health in ways many professionals in the mental health industry would shy away from because talking about feelings is considered a scientific taboo. I am doing this because the mental health problems we face today are too serious now to play “wait-and-see” we need to take bold action to define them, test our hypotheses and to heal them. Just as a society of cripples can not thrive, a society of narcissists can never hope to prosper nor endure.
The Narcissism-Self-Esteem Spectrum. Bell curve is illustrative only.
Posted in Adulthood, Parenthood, Teacherhood, Water Bird
Tagged Borderline Personality Disorder, Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Disorders, DSM, Health, Mental disorder, mental health, narcissism, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, psychology, Rosenhan experiment, self-esteem
Trigonometry is a branch of geometry; one of the major fields in mathematics. The name literally means, “the measuring of triangles” (from Greek trigōnon “triangle” + metron “measure”). As a child in school, I had a hard time understanding why the teacher thought it was so important for us to understand triangles. When students in my class raised this question, the answer was typically that we should just be quiet and do our work without questioning the usefulness of learning trigonometry. But it is difficult for anyone to work on something that is meaningless to them, we generally do our best work when it means something to us, that is, when we see a purpose for our labours. So the first task a teacher of trigonometry must do is reveal to the person you are teaching why triangles are worth studying at all. As such this article is not meant as an in-depth discussion of trigonometry, merely explaining the usefulness of the theory and pointing out various ways one could make it interesting for children to want to learn. Continue reading
Posted in Air Bird, Earth Bird, Homeschooling, Teacherhood
Tagged Education, fun math, fun maths, geometry, Math, maths, practical mathematics, Right angle, Right triangle, Teacher, teaching, teaching math, teaching maths, Triangle, Trigonometry
Attaining mental health is not a simple task. Just as we live in a world full of germs and parasites that can infest and harm our bodies, we also live in a psychological world of relationships with other people which are often full of psychological germs and parasites that can damage our mental health. Consider the public school environment: it is hard to imagine a single day without being exposed to bullying, put-downs, oppression, humiliations, peer-pressures, misinformation or other psychologically harmful elements. Often work and family environments are no better. When we consider protecting our bodies from infectious disease it is often a good idea to sterilise or clean our living environment to keep ourselves safe. However, as important as this is, without an immune system it is only a matter of time before one succumbs to infection and dies. So avoiding harmful psychological environments is not enough, one needs to develop a psychological immune system. Continue reading
Posted in Adulthood, Water Bird
Tagged Communication, Diary, Emotion, independence, journal, mental health, psychology, self-acceptance, self-awareness, self-care, self-esteem, self-help, self-love, Thought